The Nuances of Networking

Mention the word networking and you usually either get a “where and

when” response or a look of “not me!” For the latter, a networking event

may be synonymous with a root canal. But it doesn’t have to be painful.

Unlike things like parenting, which you learn only when you become

one, you can learn how to network.

To start off, rather than looking at networking as something you “must

do”, it helps to think of it as a tool to help you grow business. That is,

actually, what it is. It’s meeting people…. talking, sharing, discussing.

It’s not going to a function where you know you’ll be uncomfortable and

passing out all of your business cards. Nor is it seeing how many cards

you can collect.

So let’s simplify it. Let’s take networking and break it down to its basic

components..or what I’m calling nuances.

1. Networking is about meeting new people and building your network.

It’s not blatant selling. In fact, the “in your face” salespeople are not

good networkers. They turn people off.

2. Lighten up.

Stop thinking of a networking event as something you’re forced to get

through. Instead, think of it as a chance to meet interesting people in a

comfortable environment with good food and drink. Take some of the

pressure off.

3. You’re not being graded on this.

People are not there to see whether you’re doing a good job or not.

They don’t care.

Networking events present opportunities to build your network. Period.

4. Learn from the pros.

There are people who love to network and do it regularly. You probably

know some. They write books and newsletters. They build websites on

networking. Visit their websites and read their books.

5. Feign interest, if necessary, until you feel it.

Twelve step groups teach you to “act as if…” Try it. Act as if you’re

enjoying yourself and you may find that you are. Sometimes it’s just

getting over the fear of something new.

6. Think of what you have to gain versus what you have to lose.

If networking didn’t work, why would there be so many networking

events? Things don’t succeed if they’re failing. There must be something

to gain if so many people are attending these functions.

7. How are you building your business?

100% of my business comes either from client referrals or networking.

It’s a lot cheaper than placing ads or running commercials. All you need

are business cards. You don’t even have to hire anyone…. although if

you do hire salespeople, you’ll want to make sure they can network as

part of the job.

8. Networking adds value.

How? Because growing your network helps your customers. And being

able to help your customers adds value to your services. The more

people you know, the more contacts you have for services and goods.

This helps you become a resource for your customers and colleagues.

My clients know they can call me for just about anything, and I’ll

probably be able to help them. If I didn’t network, there’d be no way to

do this.

9. Networking helps you learn and grow.

Small business owners, especially, can become isolated. It’s important

to stay active in your business community and in your industry. You

need to be current on what’s going on that affects your business. You

need to stay on top of trends. And one of the easiest ways to do this is by

networking…joining organizations, chambers of commerce, networking

groups…attending events, lectures, seminars and workshops.

So, if you’ve been avoiding networking, now’s as good a time as any to

give it a try. You have nothing to lose and a lot of potential business to


Copyright © 2004 Rickey Gold & Associates

Rabins Sharma Lamichhane

Rabins Sharma Lamichhane is senior ICT professional who talks about #it, #cloud, #servers, #software, and #innovation. Rabins is also the first initiator of Digital Nepal. Facebook: rabinsxp Instagram: rabinsxp

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