Just Arrived Sex Ideas
BUY HER A SILK THONG: A gift of lingerie is cliched, right? So twist it. Give it to her when you (seemingly) don’t expect sex right then and there. Pass it under the table at a restaurant and ask her to go to the ladie’s room and change into it. “It’s a little naughty, but she has a chance to play back,” says Joy Davidson, Ph.D., a relationship therapist in Seattle. Not recommended for a first date.
EMBRACE HER UNTIL SHE ENDS IT: Good kissing tops most women’s lists of turn-ons, but don’t understimate the heating power of great hug, especially when she initiates it. “Let her know how much you savor it,” says Lou Paget, author of 365 Days of Sensational Sex. Make it clear you don’t want the hug to end.
WEAR HER NANE: Women love to hear men use their names. The more unexpected the place — like in the middle of a sentence — the better. Better still, write her name on your shoulder, you hand or anyplace she’ll have a chance of spotting it. It’s a tatoo without pain — one that gives only pleasure. “It will make her laugh and think you’re so adorable,” says Davidson. “It says, ‘You matter’,”
WISHPER INTO HER EAR: In pubic, at a party, tell her what you want to do to her later. “Tonight, I’m going to make you have as many orgasms as possible.” For women, anticipating it can be as exciting as the actual event.
SKIP THE FLOWERS: Blo6s at the office are overdone. If you want to stand out, send a card instead. “It’s really the thoughtful things you do at nonsexual times that make a woman want you,” says Paul Jonnides, author of Guide to Getting It On! Go with a thank-you. Write out a few things you’ve never thanked her for — making breakfast on Sunday, cleaning your stubble out of the sink. An appreciated woman during the day is an appreciative woman at night.
PLANT A PICTURE: Stash a photo of her in your wallet. She’ll deny it, but all women rummage at some point. You might as well turn it to your advantage.
SAY WHY: Anyone can say, “I love you”, so explain, why. Maybe it’s the way she nibbles at a KitKat, or how her nose scruches when she drinks tequila. The more unique your reasons, the more special she’ll feel.
GET YOUR STORY STRAIGHT: For a happy ending (tonight and every night), remember the beginning: the details of your first meeting — where you were, what she was wearing, what you said, and how you felt. Recount them. Often.
APPLY HER LIPSTICK: “Grooming a woman is kind of a role reversal,” says Linda De Villers, Ph.D., a California sex therapist and author of Love Skills: A Fun, Upbeat Guide to Sex-cessful Relationships. “She’s being doted on and served, and it shows that you think a certain part of her body is attractive.” Other ideas: Shave her legs, paint her toenails, or brush or wash her hair. According to a menshealth.com poll of 3,200 men, 76 percent said they have shampooed their woman’s hair.
KISS AND LICK HER HINGS: You’ve got the obvious kiss spots covered. Now elbows, knees, shoulders, ankles, neck, and hip joints. “They’re rarely attended to with long caresses,” says Davidson. “It’s a super sensation.” See if you can make her come unhinged.
BEAR FRUIT Chocolate syrup and whipped cream get all the kinky play in movies. Instead, turn her body into a juicer. “The best foods for sex are fruits that you can rub onto the body, such as soft mango or papaya,” says Ava Cadell, Ph.D., Ed.D., a sex therapist in California and author of 12 Steps to Everlasting Love. “Then devour both her and the fruit.” Get sticky, shower, repeat. If you’re Mickey Rourke, skip the shower.